Have you ever said you’re fine when you really weren’t?
And I’m not talking about using the phrase to satisfy social pleasantries or a routine inquiry from acquaintances.
I’m talking about when we say “I’m fine,” to the people in our lives who know us and want to help us, like our partners, coaches, and close friends.
In this video, I share a story about a recent call where a woman said she was “fine” when she obviously wasn’t.
And this got me curious. What are we really saying (and what are we avoiding) when we say we’re “fine.”
Here’s what I think “I’m fine” really means:
F – Feeling
I – Incredibly
N – Not
E – Enough
This feeling of not enough comes in the following flavors:
- I don’t want to ask for help or be a burden
- I’ll take care of it, or I should be able to handle this myself (hyper independence)
- I’m on my last legs and using all of my energy to try to keep it together
- I’m keeping my emotions at bay so I can stay strong, otherwise, I’d totally break down
- I have no idea what’s going on with me really and I’m too afraid or exhausted to find out
- I’ve been so busy doing that I have no clue as to who or how I’m being
- Can you relate to any of these? Do you have any to add?
What if instead of insisting we’re “fine,” we allowed ourselves to tune in and see what’s really up for us?
Most importantly, what if we let others see and help us when we’re Feeling Incredibly Not Enough?
How might that improve our energy?
As a clarity coach, I help busy women take meaningful breaks so they can recharge and get clear on what matters to them. And, I can spot a stiff upper lip a mile away!
The women who work with me learn how to leave behind pleasing, proving, and perfectionism so they can feel excited about their lives again, connected to what matters most, and clear on how to make their next steps happen.
When you feel that good, you never have to feel just “fine” again!
BTW, my signature program, The Creator Academy: An 8-Week Soulbbatical To Powerfully Create Your Next Chapter begins October 19th.
Email me and let me know if you’d like more info.
In the meantime, don’t get trapped by the “I’m fines.”