What if your biggest energy drain isn’t from over-working but from incessant, inner judgment?
Don’t believe me? Try this.
Imagine a time when you were super busy but totally EXHILERATED.
Now imagine a time when you were similarly busy but totally EXHAUSTED.
What was the difference?
In the second scenario, your energy was most likely zapped by painful inner judgment–it’s a literal “drag” on your energy body.
Inner judgment sounds like this:
“I should be farther along”
“Why can’t I figure this out?”
“There’s something wrong with me”
“I must be missing something”
“Who am I to think I can do this?”
“This is never going to work”
“I have no idea what I’m doing”
“what am I doing this for anyway?”
In my work with hundreds of smart entrepreneurs and business leaders, I see over and over again the depleting effects of making ourselves wrong by not trusting our path, our experience, or our gifts.
The other day, I had a hard conversation with someone where I saw the situation one way and she saw it a different way. Instead of honoring my knowing, I gave in thinking, “I must have missed something.”
I brooded for most of the day over that conversation thinking to myself, “if I’m wrong about that, what else am I wrong about?” which led to, “maybe, I should just give up on the whole thing.”
Has this ever happened to you?
You take one (ostensibly) wrong move and let it invalidate everything?
That’s when you know the inner judge is running the show.
Back to my story.
As I reflected on that encounter, I realized that my KNOWING was actually accurate but that the other person wasn’t in the space to receive it.
And, since what I had to say wasn’t well-received, her rejection set my inner judge into overdrive making me question everything.
The energy drain that resulted from the hard conversation was minuscule compared to the stress and depletion of making myself wrong as a result of it!