Yesterday, I was on a call with nine other women talking about this stage of life, from perimenopause to menopause, to post-menopause. Ages ranged from 45-60.
We each shared the story of our body changes. But more important than naming our symptoms was the chance to BE SEEN and VALIDATED.
The larger conversation, and the one I focus on in my expert conversation series, Full Living After 50, is the emotional and spiritual up-leveling available to us at this time of life.
Here are some thoughts that were shared in the group, have you felt them too?
- “My body is forgetting how to do things it used to”
- “Can I trust my emotions? Where did my optimism go?”
- “This hit me like a freight train”
- “My body feels like it’s going through a nuclear meltdown”
- “These symptoms feel so disempowering”
- “I’m losing my shit, everything is breaking down”
- “I feel isolated”
- “I feel like I’m dying”
- “I don’t know who I can talk to about it”
“Midlife is not about the fear of death. Midlife is death. Tearing down the walls that we spent our entire life building is death”– Brene Brown
While there’s no denying the physical losses, this is also a time of rich opportunity. If we choose it, we can:
- Reclaim our own power
- Find joy in life again
- Focus on what we want
- Create solidarity
- Deeply honor ourselves
- Find community
This is also the time when we get to ask:
- Who am I really?
- What’s important?
- What do I value?
And then create a life that reflects that.
This time SHOULD feel different from our last. What’s scary is not having a lot of information about what happens next.
If you’re ready to stop going it alone and join a community of women who are charting their own path then join us.
I hope you’ll tune in!